{"id":20583,"date":"2012-08-22T18:44:54","date_gmt":"2012-08-22T22:44:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=20583"},"modified":"2012-08-23T11:42:34","modified_gmt":"2012-08-23T15:42:34","slug":"what-about-vows-when-life-choices-and-intentions-change","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/what-about-vows-when-life-choices-and-intentions-change\/","title":{"rendered":"What about vows when life choices and intentions change?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?page_id=3378\">Domino<\/a> writes: &#8220;Impasse: my husband &amp; I have slowly drifted far apart as I&#8217;ve embraced world views beyond fundamentalist Christianity. I&#8217;ve walled off part of myself from him as a result, because even things like non Christian music and yoga are sinful and not even open for discussion, so my exploration of other religions and views I do entirely hidden from him. \u00a0About 10 years ago after much thought and prayer, I thought my life&#8217;s purpose was to become a Unity minister. \u00a0I wanted to leave advertising and go to seminary. This totally freaked my husband out, and he very bluntly stated that he would never be married to a minister. That destroyed my world, I struggled with depression and coming out of it forced me to reexamine all my views about God and the Bible. \u00a0 He has no idea who I am anymore, and I know he would never accept it. \u00a0That leaves me basically without a life partner on a soul level, for the rest of my life unless I would leave him. But leaving him would be devastating for him&#8211; emotionally, financially (I&#8217;ve been the breadwinner the last 22 years), and since divorce and remarriage is a sin to him, \u00a0he would live the rest of his life without a partner. So I see my choice as either to remain in a dead relationship or cause much suffering to someone I vowed to love. Neither choice feels good to me. \u00a0I&#8217;m not looking for &#8220;the answer&#8221;&#8211; just curious about your perspective.&#8221; \u00a0I posed the question on Facebook and got interesting responses:<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/beverly.gelbceroy\">Beverly Marie Gelb-Ceroy<\/a>\u00a0writes:\u00a0 I believe that when we set foot on the PATH, people, thoughts and things drop away from us as they no longer FIT who we are becoming. Like losing a great deal of weight, you have to release your old wardrope, some of which you may still love but it just doesn&#8217;t fit any longer. I also believe that allowing ourself to be Guided is part of the process and this is where it gets tricky. \u00a0We&#8217;ve never really Allowed this fully before. \u00a0When I don&#8217;t know what to do, I say this prayer from Neale Donald Walsch: \u00a0&#8220;Dear God, something beyond my current understanding is before me, the understanding of which would change EVERYTHING. \u00a0Please Show me the Way.&#8221; Then I go about my days&#8230;..until I AM shown my next step. The Buddah says: &#8221; when in doubt do nothing.&#8221; Allow the next step REVEAL itself to you.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div id=\"s-share-buttons\" class=\"horizontal-w-c-circular s-share-w-c\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/what-about-vows-when-life-choices-and-intentions-change\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Share to Facebook\" class=\"s3-facebook hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=What about vows when life choices and intentions change?&url=http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/what-about-vows-when-life-choices-and-intentions-change\/\" target=\"_blank\"  title=\"Share to Twitter\" class=\"s3-twitter hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/plus.google.com\/share?url=http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/what-about-vows-when-life-choices-and-intentions-change\/\" target=\"_blank\"  title=\"Share to Google Plus\" class=\"s3-google-plus hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/shareArticle?mini=true&url=http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/what-about-vows-when-life-choices-and-intentions-change\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Share to LinkedIn\" class=\"s3-linkedin hint--top\"><\/a><div class=\"pinit-btn-div\"><a href=\"\/\/www.pinterest.com\/pin\/create\/button\/\" data-pin-do=\"buttonBookmark\"  data-pin-color=\"red\" title=\"Share to Pinterest\" class=\"s3-pinterest hint--top\"><\/a><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<script type=\"text\/javascript\" async defer src=\"\/\/assets.pinterest.com\/js\/pinit.js\"><\/script><a href=\"mailto:?Subject=What%20about%20vows%20when%20life%20choices%20and%20intentions%20change?&Body=Here%20is%20the%20link%20to%20the%20article:%20http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/what-about-vows-when-life-choices-and-intentions-change\/\" title=\"Email this article\" class=\"s3-email hint--top\"><\/a><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Domino writes: &#8220;Impasse: my husband &amp; I have slowly drifted far apart as I&#8217;ve embraced world views beyond fundamentalist Christianity. I&#8217;ve walled off part of myself from him as a result, because even things like non Christian music and yoga are sinful and not even open for discussion, so my exploration of other religions and [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20583","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20583","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20583"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20583\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":20676,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20583\/revisions\/20676"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20583"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20583"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20583"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}