{"id":20207,"date":"2012-08-01T19:25:29","date_gmt":"2012-08-01T23:25:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=20207"},"modified":"2016-08-02T14:55:57","modified_gmt":"2016-08-02T19:55:57","slug":"i-learn-so-much-about-myself-through-interaction-with-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/i-learn-so-much-about-myself-through-interaction-with-others\/","title":{"rendered":"I learn so much about myself through interaction with others"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Something clicked for me today. Recently I had a reading with a young and pregnant mother mother of two. \u00a0Domino<\/a>\u00a0has a lot of anxiety and, being pregnant, she doesn’t want to medicate for it. \u00a0She uses the tv to keep her young ones occupied during the day, her husband watches it in the evening, \u00a0and in fact the tv is on around the clock. \u00a0 When we last spoke, she was having trouble sleeping, so I let her know one secret to rest is staying in bed with eyes closed and no external stimulation<\/a>. \u00a0\u00a0That means\u00a0Turn Off The TV, Turn Off The Lights.\u00a0<\/a>\u00a0 She found that helpful on the rare occasion she made time to do it. \u00a0<\/p>\n

During one power outage, the tv was down for the first time and she found her kids unmanageable. \u00a0We found that there are many Effects of TV on the Brain<\/a>, including the fact that, unless we train and discipline ourselves otherwise, our bodies can become addicted to daily tv due to the endorphins<\/a>\u00a0it produces in the brain. \u00a0 Spending a lot of time in front of the tv reduces our ability to think constructively, lowers our motivation and can trigger emotion which leads to \u00a0unconscious fears and anxiety.<\/p>\n

Domino already had her two children when I met her. They were both very high strung and could not sit still for any period of time.\u00a0\u00a0Dr. Bruce Lipton<\/a>\u00a0\u00a0is a former medical school professor and research scientist. He wrote at Bruce Lipton on the effects of your thoughts on the development of the brain of the growing child<\/a>, in particularly fears and anxieties.\u00a0\u00a0His experiments have examined in great detail the processes by which the cells of our body receive information. The implications of this research radically change our understanding of life. It shows that genes and\u00a0DNA\u00a0do not control our biology; that instead DNA\u00a0is controlled by signals from outside the cell, including the energetic messages emanating from our positive and negative thoughts. \u00a0such as those originating from the tv, the radio, and any other voices, sounds and noises around us.<\/p>\n

Another good article is at\u00a0Discover How Your Positive and Negative Thoughts and Feelings Affect Your Unborn Baby<\/a>. \u00a0If you’re not pregnant, then you yourself are being affected on conscious and unconscious levels whether you believe you are or not.<\/p>\n

I stopped watching tv for about ten years in the 80’s and 90’s. \u00a0I did it at first as a voluntary discipline while training my mind for other activities. \u00a0For more than a dozen years I lived alone and in functional silence by choice. \u00a0I’d turn the tv on now and again and noticed that I now viewed the shows in a different way. \u00a0I no longer sat mindlessly in front of it for hours at a time because that no longer satisfied me.<\/p>\n

I had an interesting revelation several years ago. \u00a0I’d stopped watching the daily news in the 80’s as well as most prime time programming. That meant, of course, that I’d miss a lot of popular references in social conversation. \u00a0I gradually drifted away from friends who discussed news and current events and my circle became smaller. \u00a0Mostly what we discussed were what projects we were involved in, what books we were reading, what our hopes and dreams for the future were. \u00a0We’d meditate and do yoga together, and just sit and enjoy the garden at sunset, talking about the wild critters that come to visit. \u00a0Not very stimulating for the average Joe, but a very satisfying life for me.<\/p>\n

My revelation came when I began dating someone who was glued to talk radio and the news during the day and in the car. \u00a0We meshed fairly well but there was no real depth of conversation nor much just being together in the Now-ness. \u00a0One evening he was on his way over, so I turned on the tv to watch a show I knew he watched, just to kinda get in the vibe of him before he got there. \u00a0To vibe with something he vibed with. \u00a0I don’t recall what it was, this was years ago, but it didn’t hold my interest for long so I went outside to water the plants. \u00a0When he pulled his car into the driveway, I could hear he had Rush Limbaugh on the radio. \u00a0I was kinda floored that would hold his interest. \u00a0I thought, no wonder we don’t vibe together for long, he has this kind of stuff going through his head up until a few moments before I see him. \u00a0No wonder we were always in two different vibes.<\/p>\n

But what clicked for me today was what I felt I was being deprived of when my roomate<\/a>\u00a0would have the tv on in the living room. \u00a0Even if I was officially in the office or another room working and just stepped out for a few moments, I felt deprived of the silence and the empty space that used to be there. \u00a0The seating area with tv\/couch\/recliner is at the other end of the meditation room\/altar\/library. \u00a0I am used to, for many years, stepping into silence in that space. \u00a0In that empty space, I might sit for a few moments and think private thoughts. \u00a0I might do a few minutes’ reading, I might meditate for awhile or do some yoga or a few crunches and weight lifts in front of the mirror. \u00a0 Now, today, it came to me, what I am missing, what I feel deprived of is that silent and empty space as I move from room to room.<\/p>\n

I shared my revelation with the roommate and we laughed about it; \u00a0we know it’s odd for someone to crave as much silence and alone time as I do. \u00a0That’s what being flexible is all about, being able to adapt to change as it happens. Since I share space<\/a>, we are each entitled to occupy the space as we wish. \u00a0Now that I realize what the issue is, I’ll see what solutions come to mind. \u00a0Until I know I’ve got an issue, I can’t come up with a solution.<\/p>\n

What I do know is that two people who like and respect each other will figure out a way to make stuff work. \u00a0That never fails.<\/p>\n

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