{"id":16472,"date":"2011-09-08T17:19:51","date_gmt":"2011-09-08T21:19:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=16472"},"modified":"2011-09-09T04:24:44","modified_gmt":"2011-09-09T08:24:44","slug":"know-what-to-say-when-people-are-trying-to-help-in-unhelpful-ways","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/know-what-to-say-when-people-are-trying-to-help-in-unhelpful-ways\/","title":{"rendered":"When people are trying to help in unhelpful ways"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_16560\" style=\"width: 160px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-16560\" class=\"size-thumbnail wp-image-16560\" title=\"tree palm copy\" src=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/09\/tree-palm-copy-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-16560\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Thank you but no.  My fish would not enjoy being safe in that tree.<\/p><\/div>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.adamusatlarge.blogspot.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Adam Tritt<\/a> said on Facebook this week, &#8220;When people are trying to help in unhelpful ways, know how to say &#8216;<em>Thank you but no. \u00a0My fish would not enjoy being safe in that tree.<\/em>&#8216; \u00a0If I ask for a few ounces of help, I will end up with a few pounds and some of it of a type I can&#8217;t use, even when I say so. \u00a0Sometimes I ask for an ear, and end up with advice. \u00a0Or ask for a listen and end with a lecture. \u00a0It is all appreciated, but it leaves me, sometimes, often, sitting home alone wishing I could ask for assistance but daring not.&#8221;\u00a0I know you understand.<\/p>\n<div id=\"s-share-buttons\" class=\"horizontal-w-c-circular s-share-w-c\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/know-what-to-say-when-people-are-trying-to-help-in-unhelpful-ways\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Share to Facebook\" class=\"s3-facebook hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=When people are trying to help in unhelpful ways&url=http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/know-what-to-say-when-people-are-trying-to-help-in-unhelpful-ways\/\" target=\"_blank\"  title=\"Share to Twitter\" class=\"s3-twitter hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/plus.google.com\/share?url=http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/know-what-to-say-when-people-are-trying-to-help-in-unhelpful-ways\/\" target=\"_blank\"  title=\"Share to Google Plus\" class=\"s3-google-plus hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/shareArticle?mini=true&url=http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/know-what-to-say-when-people-are-trying-to-help-in-unhelpful-ways\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Share to LinkedIn\" class=\"s3-linkedin hint--top\"><\/a><div class=\"pinit-btn-div\"><a href=\"\/\/www.pinterest.com\/pin\/create\/button\/\" data-pin-do=\"buttonBookmark\"  data-pin-color=\"red\" title=\"Share to Pinterest\" class=\"s3-pinterest hint--top\"><\/a><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<script type=\"text\/javascript\" async defer src=\"\/\/assets.pinterest.com\/js\/pinit.js\"><\/script><a href=\"mailto:?Subject=When%20people%20are%20trying%20to%20help%20in%20unhelpful%20ways&Body=Here%20is%20the%20link%20to%20the%20article:%20http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/know-what-to-say-when-people-are-trying-to-help-in-unhelpful-ways\/\" title=\"Email this article\" class=\"s3-email hint--top\"><\/a><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Adam Tritt said on Facebook this week, &#8220;When people are trying to help in unhelpful ways, know how to say &#8216;Thank you but no. \u00a0My fish would not enjoy being safe in that tree.&#8216; \u00a0If I ask for a few ounces of help, I will end up with a few pounds and some of it [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-16472","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16472","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16472"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16472\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":16564,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16472\/revisions\/16564"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16472"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16472"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16472"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}