{"id":16432,"date":"2011-08-31T08:20:55","date_gmt":"2011-08-31T12:20:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=16432"},"modified":"2021-11-27T10:08:13","modified_gmt":"2021-11-27T15:08:13","slug":"im-living-happily-ever-after-and-did-not-need-a-prince-to-get-me-there","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/im-living-happily-ever-after-and-did-not-need-a-prince-to-get-me-there\/","title":{"rendered":"I’m living happily ever after and did not need a Prince to get me there"},"content":{"rendered":"

I don’t have the “romantic partner for life” dream. \u00a0That makes life so much easier because I have fewer dashed expectations. \u00a0It’s easier – not to mention more productive and time efficient – to have secret crushes, keep to myself and tend to business. \u00a0 I didn’t know this was how I was going to feel at this age. \u00a0I used to always be in a relationship, one after another. \u00a0I loved it and them. \u00a0But in my 30’s that began to change and I began to want more time to myself. \u00a0Who I was was expanding and I needed more space between my molecules. \u00a0I wanted more silence and less in-person interaction. \u00a0I became more aware that what I think and do and say in the moment has power beyond anything I thought possible. \u00a0That when those 3 are in sync, what I give out and what I get back is always instantaneous — and I can make it good and I can make it bad. \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

I became less interested in having romantic, sexual relationships as I became more interested in studying the things I was becoming interested in, comparative religions, the writings of Yogananda, Joel Goldsmith, Helena Blavatsky, Rudolph Steiner, Alice Bailey, \u00a0Annie Besant, Ma Yoga Shakti, names I’ve forgotten but lessons learned. \u00a0 Twice I met partners who were into the work and those were intense and exciting times, and very accelerating. \u00a0 But for me, the Path is best walked alone.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I have friends whose lives are not too much different than mine, except they hold the dream of spending their golden years with a beloved other. \u00a0I tell them the trick is to get so busy and happy in your Now life that you barely notice you don’t have a partner, then one (or more!) will show right up for you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I began to see partners as steps on the path rather than the destination. \u00a0I entered into each one thinking, this is it, this is my partner for life.<\/em> Then at some point how I felt changed and I wanted to be alone again. \u00a0When I began to see the pattern, I stopped pair bonding<\/a>. \u00a0Less heartache for both when intentions change.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The bottom line is, I’m living happily ever after and did not need a Prince to get me there. \u00a0You can, too. \u00a0You’ll find your own way. \u00a0Email me at\u00a0 horizonsmagazine@gmail.com<\/a> if you want to chat about your journey.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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