Monthly Archives: February 2014

Stop stuffing emotions until you blow up and have to start over with all new people

Galpal Doreen Virtue with cockateil Angel

Spiritual sister  Doreen Virtue with cockateil Angel

Conflict phobia keeps several friends from speaking their mind and so they’re always stuffing emotions until they blow up. Then they cut off the ones who care and have to start all over again with new people.  They are running out of new people.  How do you handle conflict and harsh energy?  In this video–>  gal Doreen Virtue “shows you how to overcome conflict-phobia and stop the unhealthy process of stuffing down and denying your feelings. Learn how to clear issues with people, in peaceful and compassionate ways.  Watch the differences between assertive, aggressive, and passive responses to stressful situations, and learn to speak up for yourself.”  Continue reading

Send me a Facebook Friend request if you’re interested in my work

This happens to all the women on Facebook, I just happen to be an “A” name so I get lots of them. If someone is interested in my work, they’re IN!  If they just think I have a hot pic, I’m not in the market.  So today, the first friend request from an unknown man who has not only no mutual friends, but no friends at all and he joined FB two days ago. Handsome guy, professional photos, no personal info, at least half my age.
Hello, to what do I owe the honor of a friend request? I always ask when we have no mutual friends.
*Thanks Andrea, well your smile capture my heart so i feel we could be great friends…I see you as a good and nice person hope you dont mind ?
If you’re interested in my work, let me know how you found me
*I’m interested in getting to know and be friends and if you dont mind you can add me so we can get to know more about each other
If you’re not interested in the work, not right now.
*You mean we cant be friends? What do you do for work ?
I have enough public posts on my wall if you want to read.
*I would love to get to know you.
Not interested, thank you.

A Quiz: Are You Walking on Eggshells in Your Relationship? Your partner may have Borderline Personality Disorder traits

Eggshells fine as art, fragile as a caring heart

Eggshells fine as art, fragile as a caring heart

Are you walking on eggshells a lot in your intimate relationship? If so, you may be bonded to someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder traits.  Borderline Personality Disorder is a disorder whose essential features are a pattern of marked impulsivity and instability, intense fears of abandonment, anger and irritability, engaging in idealization and devaluation of others, alternating between high positive regard and great disappointment. If this rings a bell for you, take the following survey to find out whether that special someone in your life fits these disturbing traits. These questions are not meant as a definitive scientific diagnosis, just a useful guideline.   Continue reading

Breaking Up With a Borderline/Narcissistic Partner is REALLY Hard to Do, Part 1

You’re hurt, disbelieving, and angry. At first, you loved the way your borderline and/or narcissistic partner hung on your every word, looked at you with admiring eyes and filled that empty void within you. Their insecurity and neediness inspired your determination to be that one special person who was going to fix them for good. You felt exceptional, heroic, and valuable. Now you feel tortured and empty.  As this person’s savior, you tolerated behavior beyond what is acceptable. You’ve were certain that your partner depended on you and they would never leave. However challenging, you were committed to seeing this relationship through. But now you just can’t. Or maybe your partner left you. Or who knows, because you’ve broken up and gotten back together more times than you can count.  Continue reading

Not everyone has the strength to heal their wounds

teddy bear bandagedIyanla Vanzant  said “until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them. The moment we have a negative experience we get stuck in what was done and how it was done to us. We must learn not to take life so personally. People are not really out to get us. Let us learn to give up anger and fear by replacing those things with love.”
Not everyone has the strength to open their wounds and make peace with their past. Arrogance is usually false bravado disguising insecurity. First striving to please, they mock when the road gets bumpy, they hold grudges and burn bridges. Prayers on smoke and wind that they find strength and understanding that eases their pain.

The Void of Course Moon

full moon clouds tinyI don’t sign contracts or conduct initial contacts during a void of course moon.  To me, it’s a good time to take a breather on those activities for the few minutes or hours until when the moon is out of void. The void-of-course period of the Moon is the period of time from the moment the Moon makes the last contact with any planet in the current Sign of the Zodiac, and until it enters the next sign. The void-of-course period can be very short, only a few minutes, but it can also be very long, about two days.  Here’s a Universal Lunar Calendar that shows it.   So what does the void of course Moon have to do with my daily life?    Continue reading

No one can weave with you a bond of hatred if you contribute no strands to the weaving

A Christian friend doesn’t understand how forgiving someone can help free him. I’d said “The moment you can truly forgive (Matthew 5:44 Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you) is the moment the doors will open and you’ll be set free.” I say it works because no one can weave with you a bond of hatred if you contribute no strands to the weaving. Let it ALL go and your cork will bob to the surface in a heartbeat.

Hawaiian Forgiveness Ho’oponopono Process 

Was it the bad penny’s karma to fall?

penny droppingA friend asked today, “didn’t Buddha say there’s no such thing as karma?” I told him, to me, this is karma: I pick this penny up off the desk and let go of it. It falls. Cause and effect. I do one thing, a consequence naturally follows. The penny didn’t fall because it was bad. It fell because Z happens when you do XY.

I hosed off my white keyboard in the front yard

I just bought a new keyboard, I like a white one with a firm touch and they’re not always easy to find. I took my old one out – it’s washable – and hosed it off in the yard. I was both disgusted and saddened at seeing all the grey kitty hair from my Izzy who passed this time last year. I may need a better system for keeping my keyboard clean.