Monthly Archives: January 2014

Was it really so bad you couldn’t move forward and get past it? Guess not, you’re looking backward.

Life is fleeting moments of snippets of time. We take from each moment what we choose. What we perceive as unkindness one moment becomes loneliness the next. See with bigger hearts and minds, be kind to yourself and others, moments pass quickly to be gone forever, look for the good in all things at all times because once a moment in time passes, rear view mirrorit is gone forever. Are things really as bad as they seem or do we seem to focus on them badly? One rarely knows until the moment passes and we look backward in time to reexamine from a different perspective. Was it really so bad you couldn’t move forward and get past it? Guess not, you’re looking backward. Terri Mermis

Facebook: You think you’re in a relationship?

A friend changed her Facebook status to “in a relationship” to tick off her ex, who doesn’t care and probably didn’t see it. Months later her new relationship is fizzling, so she wants to change her Facebook status back to “single.” She hasn’t had the talk with her lover though, and knows friends will gang up on her doing the “I told you so” dance.  I hear this often in my reading sessions. One chooses to change their status to “in a relationship.” It may or may not be mutual, but they don’t know since they’ve never discussed relationship. Both tend to say nothing to keep from upsetting the apple cart. Neither knows where they stand and generally only one wants to know.  A half dozen friends wish they’d never put “in a relationship” as their Facebook status. Some are happy, many are not.  I simply don’t put relationship status.  If someone knows me, they know my status.

Receive an offer for a Wells Fargo Platinum Business Visa with 0% on balance transfers until paid in full? It’s really 0% for six months, read your agreement.

I got an offer for a Wells Fargo Platinum Business Visa with 0% on balance transfers until paid in full. I called and spoke to three different customer service people confirming it. I went into the bank to confirm it and apply. I got the agreement and read it. Nowhere did it say 0% on balance transfers until paid in full.  I received the card and the paperwork with it said 0% on balance transfers for six months. I went into my local branch where I’d applied and told them to confirm it before I wrote the first check. They did. It’s 0% for 6 months. I showed them the original envelope of the offer saying “0% on balance transfers until paid in full.” They were embarrassed. I asked to cancel it. They said there’s no fee to keep it if I don’t use it. What about the “inactive fee” mentioned in the agreement? No, there’s no fee if I don’t use the card.  We’ll see.
UPDATE: 2-14-14 I received another one in the mail!

Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.

A friend asked the point of me putting my personal life online. It’s because my life is my message, not just how I reframe challenges after the fact, but how I deal with them moment to moment while I’m in the midst of it.  Martin Luther King said it best: Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. This man helped our world CHANGE for the better and gave hope to generations. Continue reading

Use it or Lose it: 50 reasons to exercise

I have friends who do zero exercise and have constant and avoidable aches and pains. I even exercise on days I feel pouty because, well, it’s my body and if I want it to last and be an awesome vehicle, it needs regular maintenance. Don’t complain, DO something about it,  even just 15 minutes a day of walking. Here’s a great list of 50 reasons to exercise: Continue reading