Andrea de Michaelis, Publisher
Hello and welcome to the January 2014 Horizons Magazine. A new year and another chance to start doing things differently, if that's been on your mind. That's always on my mind, and not just because in my job I get asked how to do that on a regular basis. I dont just advise friends how to do things differently, I continually remind myself. Abraham-Hicks says The only way unhappy people can stay in your life is if you focus on their unhappiness. An eyeopener. We all have friends that go through rough times now and again and then there are those that have one string of problems after another. Despite being adults, they just cant seem to get their sh*t together, and they want to tell you all about it on a regular basis. You know, of course, that listening to them tell their story over and over again is not doing either of you any good. But they dont know that. All they know is they think they feel better when they drag someone else into their chain of pain to commiserate with. But Im just letting you know, they will say, or Im just telling you the facts. They really dont get it that whether their story is true or not, telling it over and over is not helping them.
Is your story that you are out of a job and the economy is bad and everyone is worried about money? Or is your story that you are between jobs, eager for a new one and that miracles happen every day?
Is your story that your husband of 40 years ran off with some bimbette, divorced you, emptied the bank account and left you to fend for yourself? Or is your story that youre starting over, testing untried waters, and excited about the possibilities?
The story you tell yourself your internal dialogue, your self talk - is what determines your future outcome. If there is no one around you cheering you on, encouraging you toward a goal, you have to be your own cheerleader and do it via your own self talk. Your self talk is that voice you hear rattling around every day. You are the one in charge of this voice and you are the one that can program it to talk in ways that encourage you and inspire you. When you are encouraged and inspired, you become more than you were before. You can become more than youve ever been, when someone sees the potential in you. You have to become someone who sees the potential in you, if there is no one else around to do it.
As an astrologer, the part of astrology I most enjoy are doing the future prediction reports called the transits. As the planets in the sky move through time and space, they impact or aspect your natal or birth planets in particular ways. What is going on in the sky is invariably mirroring what is playing out on some level in your life and in your astrology chart.
When my friend Domino is having a run of what she calls bad luck and feels there is no end in sight, I like to check her planets and see what is happening in her chart. Typically it is obvious what is happening by the configuration of her planets. The good news is that I can know the approximate date it began and, since it is all cyclical, I can surmise the approximate date it will end. Knowing there is an end in sight, helps keep Domino focused on that end and allows her to plan beyond it. As soon as she can see beyond it, and plan beyond it, she more quickly moves beyond it. Its as simple as that.
Domino used to think that if someone had bad luck once, they were cursed forever and would always have bad luck. She thought if she lost her job, shed never have another. She worried that if her husband ditched her, shed be alone the rest of her life. And likely starve. Well, her luck has apparently changed, since she finds a series of jobs that keeps her pantry stocked, and shes always juggling a couple of boyfriends.
And all that changed, really, was that she stopped telling herself that old story. The story about the sad person who could never catch a break and was going to die alone and tragic. She began telling herself the story of what she would do as soon as she was on firmer ground, she began setting goals and moving toward them. She began reading stories of encouragement from other people and she began asking her friends to encourage her in her goals. She had specific goals and so I created a special self-hypnosis cd for her to play as she fell asleep, to help reprogram her consciousness to sty focused on her goals and hopeful about them. She knew that as soon as she experienced even the slightest shift in consciousness, the momentum would be there to move her forward, closer to her dreams.
You can program yourself in the same way, by being mindful of your self talk. Script out a new set of phrases to repeat in your mind, anytime old thoughts come to mind. Keep the script in front of you. Soon enough youll have memorized it and it will run like a ticker tape in the back of your mind throughout your day. And when that happens, your shift in perception is just around the corner, so expect it and anticipate it.
A friend told me that repeatedly listening to my
cd helped her a lot and made a big difference in how she saw life. Thats a breakthrough for me, she said. I love that a simple thing like listening to the repetition of focused, hopeful, uplifting statements can be used to change someones attitude and expectation so much that they begin living a different kind of life. That listening to simple phrases over and over (even in our sleep!) can help it click within us that we have access to more life and more good than we ever thought possible. And once we realize that really realize that a new world opens up to us.
And we dont need to buy a cd to do it, we can reprogram ourself by our own daily self talk. Weve learned that the health and wellbeing of our physical body is a direct result of the thoughts we habitually think and our inner response to the words we hear others speak. The cells of our body process info and control our behavior by way of genes being turned on and off by influences outside us, such as our perceptions and beliefs. Our beliefs, true or false, positive or negative, affect our genetic activity and alter our genetic code.
We can retrain our consciousness to create healthy beliefs. We can identify where our glitches are. We can regulate our own brain chemistry to overcome ailments and bad habits. We can reprogram ourselves for more joy. Our body is a community of 50 trillion living cells, all cooperating as a collective consciousness, and we speak to it and direct it every time we have a thought or reaction. The body is a biochemical machine and the driver is the mind. So dis-ease is merely a result of how were driving our physiology. Some of the suggestions on her cd include: I no longer worry over events of the past. Every day begins my life anew and every day is a new beginning. I feel optimistic about my future possibilities. I find greater satisfaction in my everyday life. I find fun and interesting ways to spend my time and I have an increasing sense of mission and purpose.
Simple words, huh? When you believe them, really believe them, your world will change. Its exciting, isnt it, to know we can program our own upgrade.
But what about when someone comes along and bursts my happy bubble?
If someone irks you, that just means youre letting your focus wander. Get your self talk back under control and your aggravation will drop in no time. Youll begin to see that pain is caused, not when a troublesome thought surfaces, but by your conscious choice to follow the troublesome thought. By your conscious choice to re-activate your pain by staying on the topic both in your mind and with your friends. This year, stop being ticked at the one you think stole your happiness. They didnt have that much power over you until you gave them power by your repeated thoughts and words. They were just a passing blip on the screen of your life, until you detained them. You would be on to happier times by now if youd stop thinking of all the times they were mean to you. They were mean before and now theyre gone so its over, but you have carried that thought around, reactivating it daily for weeks, months, years. If you didnt have it repeating in the background of your thoughts over and over like a broken record, you would be long past it and on to your better life.
Its not what THEY did THEN that is causing you pain NOW. It is your own repeated thoughts and staying on the topic with friends. The pain is caused, not when the thought surfaces, but by your conscious choice to follow the thought and repeat the transgressions in your mind and chat about it. Thoughts arise, yes, that happens. Be aware when irksome thoughts arise and then make the choice to not follow them. I am done with this topic for now, I will think instead of some better feeling thought. And then think some better feeling thought. Write up some good replacement thoughts on sticky notes and place them around your home and office.
When a grumpy thought arises, think I am done with this topic for now, and read the sticky note over a few times, just long enough to stop the automatic thought from spiraling downward. Have good replacement thoughts ready. Ive got lots on my blog
Sh*t happens. If they arent mature enough to handle an amicable parting, forgive them enough for both of you. Then turn your attention to more fun things. Once you begin distracting yourself with replacement thoughts, you get your emotions under control. Thats the best gift you can give yourself for the new year. The best is yet to be, I promise. Expect it and believe it.
Accept all things. Its the only way to wake up anything else perpetuates the dream.
Enjoy our offering this month.